Where the Shechinah Rests
A husband and wife who are worthy bring the Shechinah into their home, and so a husband must honor his wife in deed, thought and word.
Rav Ben Tzion told his students that if a couple is worthy, the Shechinah dwells between husband and wife. Where the Shechinah rests, he said, the Soton has no entry, and neither do poverty or illness. Then he made the teaching practical. A man should honor his wife through his actions, his thoughts and his speech. He should buy her jewelry and things she likes, speak to her pleasantly and take care not to upset her, think well of her, and give her the benefit of the doubt. His students knew that he did not say this lightly. His own devotion to his Rebbetzin, Hadassah, was well known, and he named his book of mussar after her. For him, a peaceful and respectful home was the foundation on which the rest of a Jew's avodah stood.
Source: Yated Ne'eman feature on Rav Ben Tzion Abba Shaul (his saying to his students); the printed source in his seforim, perhaps Zichron Hadassah, has not been located.
Choose one small act of honor for your spouse today in each of three areas. In deed, do a task they usually handle, or bring home something they enjoy. In thought, replace one critical thought with a generous explanation. In speech, say something warm and specific, and hold back one sharp remark you were about to make. Rav Ben Tzion promised that where this is done the Shechinah dwells, and you can begin building that home with a single afternoon.