Bless Hashem Before You Bless Another
When we want to bless a friend or child, the Chida says to begin by blessing Hashem, as his teacher in Padua did.
The Zohar teaches that someone who wants to bless a friend or a son must first bless Hashem. If he does not, the blessings will not endure. The Chida adds something he heard himself from the holy elder Rav Yaakov Chazak, av beis din and rosh yeshiva in Padua. When a person came to him for a blessing, he would rest his hand on the person's head and first say, Blessed be the Name of the Holy One. Only then did he bless the man or the boy before him. The lesson is that every blessing we give comes from Hashem, and we are only the messengers. By naming Him first we remember where the blessing comes from, and we offer it to the other person with humility.
Source: Devash LeFi, Letter Bet:9
The next time you bless your child on Friday night, wish someone well before an exam, or tell a sick friend you will pray for them, pause for one moment before you say it. Quietly thank Hashem or say Baruch Hashem in your heart, so you remember who is the true Giver. Then bless the person warmly and mean it. A blessing given with humility is not a performance. It is an honest wish, passed along.