Not to Annoy Any Creature
He resolved at seven never to annoy any creature, and he prayed for the Jew's rescue, not the attacker's punishment.
A teaching ofRav Dovid Moshe Freidman of Chortkovהרב דוד משה בן ישראל פרידמאןProfile ›
Rav Dovid Moshe said of himself that at the age of seven he decided not to annoy any creature. He kept that resolution through his life, and it was said that he never refused a request and never showed anger. He was once asked what he would do if a non-Jew attacked a Jew and he were asked to help. He answered that he would pray to Hashem for the Jew to be saved, and not for the punishment of the attacker. Prayer, for him, was a request for rescue and not for revenge. A Rebbe's strength was measured by his gentleness: the same heart that hurts for the victim does not rejoice at any creature's downfall, and the wish for help can be pure without being turned against anyone.
Source: Deiah veDibur, "Kodshei Kodshim: The Chortkover Rebbe, Reb Dovid Moshe Friedman zt"l", Part III (9 Marcheshvan 5783)
The next time someone wrongs you or someone close to you, notice your first prayer. Try to make it a prayer for the injured person to be helped and healed, and leave out any wish for the other person to suffer. You can still seek fairness through proper means. Say the prayer slowly, once, by name. It will not always be easy, but a heart trained to ask only for what is good has less room for bitterness.