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A Poor Man's Matzah

Faced with stuck dough in a poor man's flour sack, he refused to let strictness cost a Jew the joy of Yom Tov.

A teaching ofRav Shlomo Eliezer Alfandariהרב שלמה אליעזר בן יעקב אלפנדריProfile ›

A poor man baked matzah from a sack of flour and afterward found a little dough stuck inside the sack. The Saba Kadisha judged the amount so small that, even had it fallen into the flour, there was enough flour to nullify it. Still he hesitated to permit the matzah, because some authorities are strict even about dough that is not stirred back in. Yet he did not want to forbid it either. The man was poor, could not easily buy new flour, and would lose the joy of the festival. So the Rav searched for a basis to permit. His responsum shows the balance of a true posek: he did not bend the halacha, but he also would not let it be applied as if the person in front of him were not there.

Source: She'eilos U'Teshuvos MaHaRSHa Alfandari (Saba Kadisha), vol. I, Orach Chaim, siman 15 (p. 36)

Practical lessonLet care walk beside rigor

Whenever you hold a standard, in your home, your work or your community, ask what it feels like for the person on the other end. This week, pick one rule you uphold and one person it affects. Keep the rule, but look for a kinder way to carry it out: an explanation instead of a correction, a bit of help, or a chance to try again. Strictness is more convincing when someone can see that it comes with care.

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